I’ve always heard and understood the phrase “Face your Fears” to be a positive and inspirational message and something necessary for the evolvement of my life.
I know when I first started speaking in front of groups, and audiences, how anxious, nervous and “fearful” I was in the days and even the weeks ahead of the presentation.
I’m talking about trouble sleeping, eating and even concentrating type nerves. The debilitating kind that culminated with a rush to the bathroom 5 minutes before going on stage :o.
The fear that usually (and strangely) subsided about 30 seconds into the speech or presentation, and which, in turn, evolved into a terrific experience with me connecting with engaged eyes and seeing nods from agreeable onlookers.
Every time I would leave a talk, I would be filled with joy, a feeling of accomplishment and even a little swagger from the feeling of “nailed it”!
I find it funny that after realizing this fear is nothing more than a conjured thought we create in our minds that I would continue to go through the same anguish every time I spoke.
Like a really bad dream that keeps coming back, and even though, rationally I completely get it, it still repeats, over and over and over again.
Is it lack of preparation, lack of self-value, fear of making a mistake, or even fear of success?
Where is this coming from and why can’t I seem to get ahead of it?
Then, this morning I received a note from the “Universe” that said:
“There are those that say, if you do the uncomfortable thing long enough, it will become comfortable. But we are really not encouragers of that. We are encouragers of coming into alignment, and then taking the action. We are encouragers always of getting rid of the fear; we would never want you to keep doing things that you feel fearful about. And maybe the path of least resistance is to just not get on the horse. Maybe the path of least resistance is to get on a different horse—but we would never move forward in fear.”
This resonated with me, and as I re-launch my coaching practice, YellowCarCoach.com, and teach many how to overcome obstacles, push themselves forward and create and explore new ground, a part of my teaching will not be as focused on “face your fears”, but instead – “understand and manage your fears and get on a different horse”.
What’s your fear and how can you manage it better?